What to do when your performance review makes no sense

I’m completely down with disagreement. I don’t like Haterade, however disagreement is fantastic. When somebody disagrees, we strive to attain widespread floor. —Roxane Homosexual

When it comes to asking for and receiving suggestions, it could possibly assist to anticipate there to be some disagreement–and be “down” with it. (In different phrases—understand how to cope with it constructively).

In any case, you and the individual providing you with the suggestions are completely different folks, with completely different views, completely different backgrounds, and even work from completely different vantage factors within the group. You may’t probably see all the pieces the identical approach.


So, what do you do in case you get some suggestions from your supervisor that you simply disagree with?

Let’s begin with what NOT to do.

First, don’t fully dismiss or low cost the suggestions, saying one thing like, “that’s simply fallacious” or “completely not.”

Second, don’t change into combative, saying one thing like, “The place did you give you that?” or “are you kidding me?”

Third, don’t simply give in or surrender, saying one thing like, “advantageous, no matter, you’re proper” or “why ought to I even hassle to make my case?”

Now, let’s speak about 5 useful methods of what you’ll be able to do in case you disagree with the suggestions:

Ask for particular examples and clarifications

Hopefully, your boss or colleague has already offered you with these. But when not—in case you get nonspecific, not clear suggestions like, “you’re not being proactive sufficient” you’re going to want to dig a bit. Make a request similar to, “are you able to share with me a particular instance of when you assume I may have been extra proactive?” Or you’ll be able to even say, “I need to ensure that we’re utilizing the identical language. What behaviors do you affiliate with being proactive?” And keep in mind – tone issues loads. Converse calmly, fastidiously, and with curiosity.

Take your time—and ask for a timeout if wanted

For those who’re discovering your self experiencing some difficult feelings that really feel onerous to handle, or in case you discover that you simply’re having a troublesome time processing and responding, sluggish the method down. A method to do that’s by looping—repeating again what you hear the opposite individual say. It additionally serves to assist the opposite individual really feel such as you perceive them. One other approach to do that’s to write issues down, which (particularly in case you do it by hand) provides you with time to mirror on the dialog as you sluggish it down to take notes. And nonetheless one other approach is to ask for a timeout for you to take into consideration what’s being mentioned—and are available again later or tomorrow to proceed or end the dialog.

Discover widespread floor

As a lot as you might discover little advantage in your supervisor’s suggestions, search for any areas of settlement—no matter how small. For instance, if your boss offers you the suggestions that you simply’re not following up with prospects rapidly sufficient, and also you assume you’re doing it as quick as you probably can, you’ll be able to nonetheless agree that each of you need to convert prospects into paying purchasers. See in case you can agree on the what and why, even in case you see the “how” in a different way.

Apply a “2% true” mindset

Ask your self this: “If I had to admit that 2% of the suggestions have been true, what 2% would it not be?”. This offers you the chance to mirror on the general suggestions, and search for components of it the place perhaps (simply perhaps) you’ll be able to see your self in there. Let’s say your boss says, “You rushed via the shopper pitch” and also you assume you spoke at an inexpensive tempo. However maybe you could possibly admit that you simply have been a little bit nervous. When you do that, be prepared to share that with your boss and begin from there.

Commit to a plan of action and plan to revisit sooner reasonably than later

 If, after your dialog, your supervisor backs down since you helped them see it your approach, congratulations. And, within the probably occasion that this doesn’t occur, make a plan with your supervisor for you to strive the brand new or completely different method—however to examine again in quickly about the way it’s going. That approach, you gained’t spend months engaged in a brand new approach of working with out figuring out whether or not or not it’s making a constructive distinction. 

Hopefully, you get extra suggestions that you simply agree with than you don’t.  However when the time comes that the suggestions makes you say, “huh?” you now have some methods to sort out that dialog.